📅 Published: June 10, 2026
References can help you or hurt you. The mistake is waiting until the employer asks and then scrambling to find someone who barely remembers your work.
Quick answer
Ask references early, choose people who can speak about your work clearly, and send them the job title, resume, and a few reminders about your strengths.
Ask references early, choose people who can speak about your work clearly, and send them the job title, resume, and a few reminders about your strengths.
Good references
| Reference type | Why it works |
|---|---|
| Former manager | Can speak to reliability and performance |
| Team lead | Can explain daily work and collaboration |
| Coworker | Can speak to communication and teamwork |
| Client or customer | Can support service quality if appropriate |
| Instructor or mentor | Can help if you are early career or changing fields |
Who not to use
- someone who does not remember your work
- a friend pretending to be a manager
- a current boss if your search is private
- someone you have not asked permission from
- someone likely to be negative or vague
What to send your reference
- The job title and company.
- Your latest resume.
- A few bullet points about projects you worked on together.
- The skills you hope they can mention.
- A thank-you message after they help.
Message template
Reference request
Hi [Name], I am applying for [type of role] and wanted to ask if you would be comfortable serving as a professional reference. I can send my resume and a few notes about the role so it is easy for you. No pressure if now is not a good time.
Hi [Name], I am applying for [type of role] and wanted to ask if you would be comfortable serving as a professional reference. I can send my resume and a few notes about the role so it is easy for you. No pressure if now is not a good time.
Final thought
References work best when they are prepared. Do not surprise people with calls about your career.
Helpful DamnJobs Resources
Before you send another application, make sure your resume, target role, and keywords actually match the job.
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